Friday, September 24, 2010
Friends . . I have been absent and off the radar.
This has been a VERY difficult, exciting, hopeful, hazy, stretching, questioning and frustrating period in our lives.
As some of you may already know, after 11 years in the UK & Ireland my family and I (all five of us!) left our friends, home, full-time permanent job and the beautiful island we called home to relocate to the Nashville, Tennessee area in pursuit of a vision God laid before us.
On June 30th it all went down. We moved - leaving a home unsold in County Tipperary with renters agreeing to live in it for the next year. When we arrived in America with very mixed feelings and still very cloudy on all that lie ahead, the first thing we did was attend the funeral of a woman who is VERY dear to me. My Grandmother, Grace L. McMurray had passed a few days before we fly our of Ireland. She was more than a grandmother to me, she was a friend. My mother and I lived with her a while when I was very young and I had a lot of time with 'Mac' as we called her. She became a hero and legend to me. I used to brag about her muscles to friends and teachers when I was a kid. She had been a widow since 1961, had raised four young girls, managed a farm of five acres and worked - hard - to support her children, and grandchildren at times. We were in touch regularly and I always visited her when we returned to the States for vacation over the past decade.
Mac was very influential in Christy and I giving eleven years of our lives in Northern and Southern Ireland. She had created a sort of family lore about being Irish in America in our family. She often recounted stories about our relatives who had moved from counties Tyrone and Antrim in the mid-nineteenth century to Ohio in search of their own adventures. When I had a chance to visit N. Ireland on a short term missions trip in 1996 - she paid for it. It was on that trip I knew I'd be back. Three months later in May I returned with Christy and her university and it was then I proposed to her. When we left I knew we'd be back. Three years later in 1999 we moved to N. Ireland with only the clothes in our suitcases. We remained, eventually moving South - investing in young lives across the whole island for over a decade. Our three children were born there and will forever know their heritage and origin. We were changed by sharing our lives and by the 'Irish' (Northern Irish for some of you!) sharing their lives so deeply with us.
When we returned to the US and attended Mac's funeral with many family members we hadn't seen for years, we were to find out Grandma Mac had been thinking of us in her fleeting moments of clarity in the weeks preceding her death. She had been saving up her income and left us a gift to help our family resettle in America. We have been floored by her generosity, intentionality and tangible love for us - even as she dwindled away in the twilight of her life. We are forever indebted to her and will seek to live for others as she so clearly did in her time on this earth. I love you Grandma - and I always will.
A few days following her funeral, I began a month's odyssey of traveling to the area we were soon to call home every Sunday afternoon through Friday night the whole month of July. I did this to attempt to search for and secure a full-time job before moving the family down. I invested a lot of hours of networking, searching, interviewing and praying - trying to discern God's leading for our family. By the time the end of July came I had a strong interest from one employer for part-time work but no commitment to hire and we had no home to move to. Issues were further complicated because we had no idea where our eldest daughter Neve would go to school without a job to dictate an area to move to and a home to live in. In the first week of August we decided to jump from the protective covering of Christy's parent's home and move to Tennessee anyway. We packed our small UHAUL and jumped into the unknown - again. Many of our family no doubt felt this was an unwise decision but sent us off anyway.
When we arrived in Franklin, TN (just 20 miles south of Nashville) we set up our temporary home in an extended stay hotel where we lived for six days as I continued to interview and apply for jobs and we looked for a home to live in. We frantically narrowed down a the available options to a home in Spring Hill, TN as the first day of school approached. Neve would have not been allowed to begin school until we had a permanent address in a school district. Finally, the day before school began, we agreed to rent a home for one year (without any promise of income to cover the bills) and I took a part-time job with The Battle of Franklin Trust for pennies of what we truly need to survive as a family of five here. So, the past six weeks have been an intense period of settling in securing insurances of various kinds, new driver's licenses, locating doctor's and trying to get plugged in with people in the area.
We are very, very happy with the church we've landed in only the second Sunday after our arrival. It's a new churhc plant in a local high school called Conduit. More info here: www.ConduitChurch.com Basically, what we really value about this small gathering of 'followers of the Way' is that they are new to it all - like us to the area and the US, they travel lightly by not incurring a lot of overhead costs in order to give more away to those in need locally and internationally (which they're doing to GREAT effect) and they (like us) don't really know what God is up to or where this is all going. Yeah, we're there too. It's truly a God-thing we've landed in with Conduit Church! Here we are . . I'm working part-time Tuesday through Thursday and seeking full-time salaried work every chance I get. Neve (who's seven) is enjoying the second grade at our local elementary. Aidan (five) is at home most days enjoying LEGO and super heroes and meeting kids his age at church, in the neighborhood and gatherings. Keely (one) is growing quickly, talking a lot, making ridiculously funny faces and Christy is patiently waiting. She's waiting to see where God appears in this chaos and haze of major life transition and upheaval. She's waiting to see how our family will be provided for, how our children will settle in a foreign environment, for friends she can share life with and for someway to invest herself outside of our family environment - a vision. In fact, we're all waiting . . waiting on Him . . waiting for Him.
One of the main reasons we moved to this part of the world and US was to follow a vision God placed before us to pastor Creatives (anyone invested in the arts or entertainment) as Soul Friends. A Soul Friend vocation is similar to the traditional role of a spiritual director or life coach. 'Soul Friend' is a translation of the Irish phrase Anam Cara. The Irish have a long history of Soul Friends. A Soul Friend is someone who intentionally walks beside another as they journey together - both into unknown territory. As they journey through life, a Soul Friend helps another to become more aware of where God is showing up - speaking in fact - all the time encouraging them to recklessly abandon themselves into God's good, capable, care-full hands. This is the process of transformation . . of becoming that person God created us to be and has dreamt we could become from moment He conceived us in love.
We came because we are following although we don't know the way. We came to know Jesus Christ more fully. We came to obey. We came to see this adventure unfold. Will you consider joining us?
All our love to all of you friends. Please share your lives with us even as we have opened our to you and we'll journey onward - together.
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Executive Producers - David Blakeslee & Brad Bretz
Writers - Evan McLaughlin, Tim Cooper & Katherine Volk
Creative Director - Evan McLaughlin
Producer - Jeff Earnhardt
Director - Steve Young
DP - Josh McKague/Whisper Productions (http://www.whisperproductions.com)
Sound & Lighting - Whisper Productions
Line Cut - Jeff Earnhardt
Editor & Graphics - David Robertson
Voiceover - Mark Gibson
Music & Words Written by Reid Greven
Monday, May 10, 2010
Kerry and Twyla Jackson, church planting missionaries with the North American Mission Board, share their passion and vision for planting Bezalel Church among the arts community of Atlanta, GA.
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Friday, March 05, 2010
A number of months ago I wrote on my experience of watching the two Twilight films which have become monetary cinematic ‘successes’. I watched them in reverse order due to my strong desire to briefly escape a conference I had been attending when the ‘New Moon’ installment was released. New Moon left a bad taste in my mouth, but having some form of artistic integrity, I decided I must give the first film a chance to redeem the franchise. Twilight’s debut film release was, in my humble opinion, better than it’s newer relative. After being equally nauseated (New Moon) and convinced (original Twilight) by the two films within their accompanying social media tempest, I began reflecting on some more abstruse meaning presented within these films.
While there are elements to celebrate within the Twilight series, such as the cinematography of the Pacific Northwest, the intriguing screenwriting and the intricacies of connections between characters, there are of course more subtle messages that hold sway as well. My main concern in highlighting a few of these potentially more disastrous aspects is for younger, or less critical souls that could be trounced upon by Twilight’s resonance with their everyday experience and fanatic fantasies. If left unexamined in the midst of all the beauty and wonder the films traffic, these sentiments augmented by the film’s popular appeal may be assimilated unknowingly.
Reminiscent of the age old story of Romeo and Juliet by Shakespeare, Twilight has an underlying tragic element which in many respects offers suicide and self harm as possible resolutions to teenage relational / emotional turmoil. This is nothing short of cataclysmic for malleable and somewhat unanchored lives, tossed around in the sea-change known as adolescence. I have no qualms with real life relational sophistication in all it’s variance as portrayed within the films, but I do not believe it beneficial for those aforementioned souls to see deadly means employed to deal with temporary situations. Bella seems perpetually encased in state of depression and exhibits accompanying behavior such as self-imposed social exclusion, potentially destructive behaviors and suicidal tendencies.
While freedom of expression is an important aspect of life, doesn’t ‘love’ motivate us to work for the good of others and not their harm? Casting our adult minds back to but a fraction of our own experience as teens - and possibly that of others we knew - should empower us to be better equipped in supporting these emerging adults in their wonderful, weird and yes, wacky, developmental journey. There is so much that is thrown up in the air within those formative years of human existence in regards to identity, relational circles and cycles, education, purpose, and emotional maturity that it seems cruel to offer anything less than edifying, constructive support for these adults under construction.
The pure platform that all forms of mass media inhabit augment the supra-reality each medium offers its consumer. By the very fact that something or someone is afforded a stage - ‘a moment in the spotlight’ - they have been given more credibility than possibly their character or message innately possess. This inordinate amount of influence requires an inordinate level of responsibility. This truth is corroborated in the Scriptures when it states, “Not many of you should presume to be teachers, my brothers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly.” (James 3:1, N.I.V.). The same truth was popularized in the Spiderman franchise films when Pete Parker’s uncle Ben tells him early into his web-slinging career that “. . with great power comes great responsibility.” Satire ensued.
Along with Bella’s tendency toward the downward spiral of self-obsessed destructive behaviors in the wake of her broken relationship with Edward, the films exuded a sense that token sexual encounters, while not intercourse, are ‘safe’ for those engaged in them. Setting the varied opinions about sexual intercourse prior to being in a lifelong, committed relationship aside, there are practical concerns with any popularization of dating habits that statistically end in more sexually transmitted disease / infections, unnecessary emotional pain and, of course, unwanted pregnancies. I know you may be thinking, “C’mon, it’s only a film!” and at times I would be saying the same thing. But, in this instance, because of the unique maturation phase of the Twilight films’ targeted audience and the ubiquitous, powerful influence of media in personal formation, I stand in opposition to messages communicated through these avenues and in this manner for the sake of the Young.
Edward’s seemingly benign encounters of gazing upon Bella in her underwear while in bed do nothing to help young people (let alone adults!) develop clear understanding and personal discipline in making choices which help them navigate the course of relational integrity throughout life. It’s reminiscent of the old adage that playing with fire usually ends in someone getting burned. This is not a fear based or fear motivated tactic, but pure and simple wisdom. It’s more than unfortunate that much of the Western world demonstrates that personal ‘freedom’ mandates the pursuit of the gratification of our every desire for our pleasure. There is a direct correlation between the choices we make and the consequences we experience - good or bad - in life. Anyone who admonishes or touts the innocence of such behavior only heaps fuel on the ‘fire’ and turns a blind eye to the incontestable evidence of how we humans are ‘wired up’ when it comes to - in the case above - sexual activity. The next logical step in a bedroom situation as displayed in ‘New Moon’ is obvious to all, it’s meant to work that way and frankly, that’s why it does - but it doesn’t usually end well.
After ranting to some degree about the potentially destructive messages inherent in such hugely popular films such as the Twilight franchise, and the intrinsic power suffused within mass media, I can understand why one might think me a prude. The inverse is actually true. From where I stand, gifts such as sex are designed to be more fully enjoy within the boundaries of healthy, lifelong monogamous relationships where, in ideal circumstances, both partners are perpetually seeking to do good to one another. Likewise, while some may herald this as an assault on personal freedoms, I see no qualitative benefit to exposing young people to lifestyle choices such as the ones exhibited by Bella (in the medium they were presented) without opportunities to discuss the various outcomes from those choices in the context of caring relationships. To do so otherwise is potentially destructive - especially for young lives in transition.
I’m all for art - I love it as a means of expression and a mirror to see ourselves within. I support the role art fulfills in revealing the spectrum of human experience through a variety of mediums, but I believe it should be done in a measured, sensitive approach which seeks to work for the good of the lives of those who engage with it.
Wednesday, March 03, 2010
I LOVE this stuff, it's so fascinating, inspiring and challenging. A wonderful & wired future is ahead that may make us wistful for some of what we lost if we're not intentionally preserving what holds significance for meaning-making in life.
Thursday, February 18, 2010
Well friends, it's been some time since I posted anything personal here on ye' auld blog. There will be a lot C-H-A-N-G-E in the Tucker household in 2010. The adventure continues . . .
After eleven years in this island on the edge of the world - we are moving to America. Yes, it HAS been that long. I can hardly believe it either! Of course it will be a return for Christy and I, but for our three precious children it will be a first. They are born and bred 'Irish' and we'd have it no other way(our eldest says N. Irish!). It has been a privilege raising them in their early years in this wonderful part of the world, but now they'll have greater access to their family in the US of A.
On February 3rd, 2010 I handed in my resignation to the Church of Ireland Youth Department. I will officially finish my time with them at the end of June. We've also put our home on the market for sale here in Tipperary. Watch this area in the next few years as the largest Eco-village in Britain & Ireland nears completion and the new freeway between Dublin & Limerick is finished just 5 miles down the road. In the same day we had estate agents over to valuate the home, we bought our one-way tickets to America for the end of June. Everything's been set in motion!
In all of this it's incredible to imagine that another long-term dream could be coming true. For over a decade I've had a growing sense of vocation to pastoring 'creatives' and those in the public eye in general. An eight year friendship with a couple who've been doing that very thing has given birth to an invitation to join them in the work based out of Nashville, TN. In order to become 'missionaries into popular culture' we'll be in inviting friends to gather around us who get the vision and desire to invest in the work prayerfully, relationally and resourcefully. More on this will be revealed by St. Patrick's Day so please 'stay tuned'! I'm also seek part or full-time work to be able to take care of the family alongside raising support.
If a job and a home in America haven't materialized by the time we return, I'll spend the month of July searching for them in the Nashville area while the family stays with our extended family in Columbus, Ohio. In all of this we know that God is good and will look after us. That's the message that keeps coming back to us again and again. As The Message says, we can be "careless in the care of God."
Would you like to hear more on this?? Please get in touch, ask questions and please do pray for us in all of this as we give God opportunity to do the miraculous!
"God can do anything, you know—far more than you could ever imagine or guess or request in your wildest dreams! He does it not by pushing us around but by working within us, his Spirit deeply and gently within us.
Glory to God in the church!
Glory to God in the Messiah, in Jesus!
Glory down all the generations!
Glory through all millennia! Oh, yes!"
- Ephesians 3:20-21, The Message
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